Relationship issues, what to do? (super long)?

I am sorry you have a child with an abusive man. You need to get out of this home as fast as you can. Do not go were he can find you. There are women groups in every city look them up and go and see them they can help. I would not go hooking up with another right off you need time to grow on your own first. Sounds like a kind of slavery the way you been living. Get HELP than get OUT! Good Luck